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Self analysis

There's a meme going around about how someone on your LJ who wants to sleep with you or date you. Here's how it goes:

"There's at least one person on your LiveJournal that wants to date you or sleep with you. So, let's play Friends With Benefits!

The rules are simple:

* If you want to be (or are) in a relationship with me, post a comment saying "I'm yours."
* If you just want to sleep with me and stay friends, post a comment that says "I'd hit it."
* If you would like to go on a date with me just to see where it goes, post a comment that says, "Are you busy tonight?"


Comments screened."


With the divorce and everything, the thought of doing this meme is incredibly threatening. My stomach dropped in recoil when I saw the meme, and I couldn't help but think "How can someone expose themselves like that?" But when I actively thought about it, I asked myself, everything is screened, so what's being exposed? I actively considered *doing* the meme, and recoiled even further. and I think it's because the exposure isn't to public at large, it's exposure of myself to someone who is, essentially, faceless to me. I don't want someone Off The Internet saying they want to date me or sleep with me. that thought is seriously creeptacular. If someone wants to do that, I want them right in front of me so I can see their eyes and watch their body language. Anyone can type stuff. But body language doesn't lie.

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itskoi
Jan. 28th, 2009 05:33 am (UTC)
I don't want someone Off The Internet saying they want to date me or sleep with me. that thought is seriously creeptacular. If someone wants to do that, I want them right in front of me so I can see their eyes and watch their body language. Anyone can type stuff. But body language doesn't lie.
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I agree 100% completely. You are divorcing? So sorry. :-( On the other hand I'm a success story of how good life can be in time and healing.
lizzibabe
Jan. 29th, 2009 12:29 am (UTC)
Yes, I'm afraid so. The divorce occurred in 2007, but I'm still healing from it. Thank you.
itskoi
Jan. 29th, 2009 01:36 am (UTC)
My stats are - split up July 29 2007 (2 days before our 9th anniversary and during our first marriage counselling session which he said then he only wanted to take me to because I was so fragile so he could break up with me there). Have to wait a year before you can divorce where I am, so July 2008 I started the paperwork and it was finished October 31 (You can laugh!) 2008. I agree that healing takes a long time.
lizzibabe
Jan. 29th, 2009 01:52 am (UTC)
We split up in March 2007 just short of our 4 year anniversary, and the divorce was finalized in January of 2008. I can go over more details via email Lizzibabe AT gmail DOT com if you're interested.

We were together for 7 years. They say you can expect healing time to be half that of the relationship. I reckon I've got another year and a half.
amaebi
Jan. 28th, 2009 10:59 am (UTC)
Technical note
Your subject suggests that you wanted to friendslock this, and it's not friendslocked. So I thought I should mention it.
lizzibabe
Jan. 29th, 2009 12:28 am (UTC)
Re: Technical note
You're right. I forgot to lock it. But now that I think about it, I don't think I need to hide it anymore.

I appreciate that you mentioned it. Thank you.
mjlayman
Jan. 29th, 2009 05:22 am (UTC)
There are people online who I know in real life, but even then, I don't want to communicate with them about sex/love online like this! Some memes are very weird.
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